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Welcome to My Blog

A self help blog for adults

My blog is a self help blog for adults suffering from distressing memories, dreams, or emotions, as well as possibly having relationship problems, a decreased ability to concentrate, and an increased startle response or irritability who are trying to survive by avoiding any reminders or feelings, start to learn they CAN be at peace with themselves and they CAN have a sense of internal and external safety allowing them to live and act the way they want to on a daily basis.

PTSD awareness month continued

It is PTSD awareness month, so in that light, this blog is all about PTSD. We’ll talk about what PTSD is, why some people develop PTSD while others do not, what symptoms you may notice in yourself, a friend or family member who may be suffering from the effects of...

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June is PTSD Awareness Month

Each month of the year is some named month. It just happens that June is PTSD awareness month. The purpose of PTSD Awareness Month is to encourage everyone to raise public awareness of PTSD and effective treatments. We can all help those affected by PTSD. As we are in...

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Going out of your Comfort Zone

This weekend I did something completely new…I gave a professional seminar. In therapy, people do something new every day to improve themselves. As therapists, we know how hard doing something new is, but we often haven’t done anything outside our comfort zones too...

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Motivation

Do you ever have those days when you just don’t want to do anything? You know there is so much to do and you know you should get up and do those things, but the energy and motivation to do so just seem to escape you? How about taking it from another angle – there is...

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What is reclaiming your life worth?

This week I decided to do something new – coaching – to help me meet some goals. I am excited to start this new adventure, but also very scared because the cost is pretty high. I asked the coach “I’m excited but terrified. Will you promise to hold me up through my...

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Panic with calm place exercises?

This week I have seen a few people whose emotions seem to be out of control for them. They have a very difficult time bringing themselves into a place of relative calm. I also worked with two of them on calm place/safe place visualization which was very, very...

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What do you mean change?!

Does this sound like you: "I don't want to live this way anymore, but what will like be like when I'm better?" Or "I've been living this way for so long, will it really be better to be "better?" Change is scary. No doubt about it. Remember when you moved from...

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Mindfulness…it is important enough to discuss again!

Many years ago the diagnosis of ADD and ADHD was not well known or treated. Then it seemed like everyone was diagnosed with it and started on medication. I, myself, was put on Ritalin at the age of 7. For me, at least, it was helpful. My teacher told my mom I grew up...

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Spring…new beginnings…

It is spring. In the northern United States life is starting to bloom – trees, flowers, grass. Animals are coming out. It’s a time of “rebirth;” of happiness of newness. So at a time when it seems like everyone everywhere is feeling excited and happy, you might be...

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Mindfulness and Intrusive, Distressing Thoughts

I'm sure you've seen this image before. What do you think of it? Have you tried mindfulness just to find that you keep returning to the distressing thoughts? You gently bring yourself back time and again to what you are in the middle of doing just to find yourself...

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PTSD is So Lonely

You know how alone you feel with your PTSD symptoms? The flashbacks, the panic attacks, the sadness/loneliness? The feeling that nobody understands? Maybe people have told you to “stop acting” or “get over it” or “you’re being dramatic.” It is so frustrating. If you...

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What’s all this Hype about EMDR?

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has been around for 30 years, but seems to be gaining a lot recognition lately. What is EMDR? Why is it so effective? Can any therapist do EMDR with me? Is it hypnosis?...What exactly is EMDR? One day in 1987, a...

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When the past IS the present

We’ve been talking a lot about triggers. But what do triggers do? Why is there so much talk about “trigger warnings” and learning how to avoid or deal with triggers? If triggers remind you of something, whether bad, good, or indifferent, what’s the big deal with...

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Unlocking the Mystery of Triggers

You know how some triggers are obvious? A smell, a sound, a person, a place? The memory part of your brain (hippocampus) says “oh I remember this; this is bad.” It sends the signal immediately to the brain’s alarm system (amygdala) which in turn immediately sends out...

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Dealing with triggers

Isn’t it frustrating to be afraid to leave your house because you are sure something will trigger you, causing a panic attack? Even at home you may have panic attacks. It doesn’t feel like you are truly safe anywhere. It is so frustrating when it seems like so many...

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Let’s talk Triggers

Let’s talk about triggers. Let’s get rid any stigma that you are weak because you have PTSD. Let’s better understand what it means to be triggered. Let’s answer the questions such as: Why do triggers have so much power? And can triggers ever decrease in...

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What is the purpose to intrusive thoughts?!

Last week we discussed coping skills for intrusive thoughts, especially when you are cooped up inside for any reason. What makes intrusive thoughts so horrible is literally their intrusiveness. They come up unwanted and unbidden. No matter what you try, intrusive...

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Cabin Fever is the Worst!

As I'm sitting here, looking outside at the snow falling (we're supposed to be getting 10-14 inches today), I can't help but think about the stressors of being stuck inside with intrusive or racing thoughts. Whether you are stuck inside due to weather, child/elder...

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